December 22, 2015:
"Sneaky".
She'll be offended by the word, but it's the most accurate summary of the complex sense of mistrust she engenders.
Closed, unwilling to share information or decisions, jealous of external input, at times flatly dishonest, almost certainly disloyal, very definitely hiding the double life that peeks through her fingers when she relaxes her guard.
She values control more than any attribute. That's true, though she denies it. She claims to value kindness uppermost, and that's probably correct if "value" is limited to how others treat her. Her own orientation is radically, drastically toward monopolizing her own absolute control over even the most trivial details.