March 1, 2019:
It's necessary to explicitly ask: Is this a date, or is it just dinner and convo? With us it can go either way, where typically she fails to respond until a few minutes before pickup time. Leaving you unsure what the evening will be, or how to behave appropriately, until the very last moment.
This is how we oscillate, between poles of commitment and rejection, never certain, ever ambiguous, ever insecure.
With a clear periodicity. A form of universal solipsism: if you want it, it will not happen.