June 2, 2023:
Articulate very specifically and carefully your goals and purposes. People somehow interpret that as camouflage for something else. As though your directness is oblique, where your true meaning fulfills whatever wish they have going at the time.
Many years ago I expressed my disinterest in further connection to a woman I'd turned out to heartily dislike. I put effort into being direct without being egregiously hurtful. An attempt at kindness. She conferred with her teenage daughter, so that the two of them interpreted my communication to mean exactly precisely entirely the direct opposite of what it in fact carefully said. I had to be far more harsh than I'd wanted, and even then, I later found her parked in front of my apartment, stalking.
Every single thing that happens involves conflict and miscommunication. Every fucking single action you can possibly perform.